Sorry I've been MIA this week--it's just that too much sleep has left me unable to sit at the computer. I've actually had the energy to get off my duff and play with Kate, clean the house, and all kinds of other things! Yep, that's right: Sleep Boot Camp was a success! After three nights, my sweet little thing started sleeping from 7 pm until 6 am. AMAZING. I now remember what it feels like to be human. It was so hard listening to her cry those first few nights, but the payoff has been totally worth it.
Much more to write about, but it will have to wait until tomorrow...I'm going to bed now, and plan to sleep all night long!
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Sleep Boot Camp, Day 1
Yesterday was tough. Avery woke up every.single.time I tried to put her down for a nap. Frustrated doesn't even come close to describing how I felt. We had a birthday party at noon, and by that time, she had only slept for about 30 minutes all day. I had to leave her in the crib crying while I showered and got dressed. Never did go to sleep. At the party, K had a complete meltdown, and I had to practically drag her to the car, kicking and screaming. It wasn't pretty. She proceeded to scream the entire way home, which made Avery think that she should scream too. I put on my headphones and tried to drown them out with Dave Ramsey. Josh must've known I was thisclose to a breakdown because he got home at 5 and ordered me to go out for a while. Have I mentioned that I love him? I headed to the gym and felt much better by the time I got home. That didn't last long...K threw a huge fit 10 minutes after I got back. Spent about an hour in time out because she refused to apologize to Josh for hitting him. Crazy girl. While she was in time out, sleep bootcamp began in Avery's room:
I put Avery in the crib at 7:50. The minute I laid her down, she started to scream. I kissed her goodnight and left. She proceeded to scream for 25 minutes, and then stopped....that was it. I went in and checked on her, and she was zonked out. Awesome. The first time we let Kate cry it out, she went on and on for almost 2 hours. Avery woke up at 11:30. I fed her and then put her down awake. She cried for 10 minutes. Up again at 2:30. Cried for almost 30 minutes. Up for good at 6:30. I fed her and tried to get her to go back down, but she just wanted to play. That was really too early for her to get up b/c she was ready to go back to bed by 7:30. Overall, it wasn't a bad night. Believe it or not, that's better than most of our nights are. Naps have been much better today too--I haven't had to hold her at all! Let's hope night 2 goes even better.
I put Avery in the crib at 7:50. The minute I laid her down, she started to scream. I kissed her goodnight and left. She proceeded to scream for 25 minutes, and then stopped....that was it. I went in and checked on her, and she was zonked out. Awesome. The first time we let Kate cry it out, she went on and on for almost 2 hours. Avery woke up at 11:30. I fed her and then put her down awake. She cried for 10 minutes. Up again at 2:30. Cried for almost 30 minutes. Up for good at 6:30. I fed her and tried to get her to go back down, but she just wanted to play. That was really too early for her to get up b/c she was ready to go back to bed by 7:30. Overall, it wasn't a bad night. Believe it or not, that's better than most of our nights are. Naps have been much better today too--I haven't had to hold her at all! Let's hope night 2 goes even better.
Friday, April 17, 2009
Dear Avery....
Dear Avery,
I would love it if I had no responsibilities in this world other than to hold you while you sleep. This is not the case. Your sister needs my attention. I would like to get dressed sometime today. We have errands to run. I have no problems rocking you to sleep, but please....PLEASE do not wake up the second I lay you down. A 5-minute snooze in my arms does not constitute a nap! Thank you for considering my point of view.
Love,
Mommy
I would love it if I had no responsibilities in this world other than to hold you while you sleep. This is not the case. Your sister needs my attention. I would like to get dressed sometime today. We have errands to run. I have no problems rocking you to sleep, but please....PLEASE do not wake up the second I lay you down. A 5-minute snooze in my arms does not constitute a nap! Thank you for considering my point of view.
Love,
Mommy
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
There's a monster in my house...
There's a monster that lives here. Not under the bed. No, this monster has some serious nerves. She camps out on top of the bed. My bed. She's not the monster of little kids' nightmares either. No fur, no sharp teeth...no teeth at all, now that I think about it. Most people wouldn't even know she's a monster....she's incognito....a monster disguised as a baby!
Okay, you got me, I'm speaking of my sweet baby Avery. When I say sweet, I mean during the day. The nights are a whole different story. Apparently, she doesn't need sleep like the rest of us do. She's had her share by about 2 a.m. After that, it's play time. Unless, of course, she gets to go to mommy and daddy's bed. Then, she'll conk out until morning. Now this hasn't always been the case. Avery was a stellar sleeper until about 4 months old. Then all of a sudden, she decided that sleeping is for the birds. I'm fairly certain that her older sister had a talk with her and let her know that she didn't sleep through the night until 13 months, and that she expects no less out of Avery.
Well, I expect different from Avery. And unfortunately for her, I'm not as sensitive to her crying as I was to Kate's when she was a baby. I know that a night or two of crying will equal much more sleep for everyone. So, starting Monday....SLEEP BOOT CAMP at our house! I'm at the end of my rope, sleep-wise, and it's not fair to any one that mommy is always grumpy. I look forward to the day when I can lay down in bed, and KNOW that I won't be getting up again until the sun is up. Then maybe we can discuss the idea of another baby.....who will be a GREAT sleeper, I'm sure!
My monster:
Okay, you got me, I'm speaking of my sweet baby Avery. When I say sweet, I mean during the day. The nights are a whole different story. Apparently, she doesn't need sleep like the rest of us do. She's had her share by about 2 a.m. After that, it's play time. Unless, of course, she gets to go to mommy and daddy's bed. Then, she'll conk out until morning. Now this hasn't always been the case. Avery was a stellar sleeper until about 4 months old. Then all of a sudden, she decided that sleeping is for the birds. I'm fairly certain that her older sister had a talk with her and let her know that she didn't sleep through the night until 13 months, and that she expects no less out of Avery.
Well, I expect different from Avery. And unfortunately for her, I'm not as sensitive to her crying as I was to Kate's when she was a baby. I know that a night or two of crying will equal much more sleep for everyone. So, starting Monday....SLEEP BOOT CAMP at our house! I'm at the end of my rope, sleep-wise, and it's not fair to any one that mommy is always grumpy. I look forward to the day when I can lay down in bed, and KNOW that I won't be getting up again until the sun is up. Then maybe we can discuss the idea of another baby.....who will be a GREAT sleeper, I'm sure!
My monster:
Monday, April 13, 2009
The nothing box
It's a real thing, the "nothing box". I don't have one, but Josh does. It's that place that men go when they get that blank stare on their faces. The one that they escape to when you start to tell them things that they need to do around the house. Or anytime there's sporting event on TV. Or there's a toddler running around saying, "I have poop!". I despise the nothing box. At the same time, I'm insanely jealous of it. I wish I had one. What would it feel like to sit on the couch and watch tv without thinking about the messy kitchen, the crying baby, the dinner that needs to be cooked, the bills that need to be paid.....
We went to a marriage conference in January called "Laugh your way to a better marriage". The presenter was a man named Mark Gungor, and he is hilarious. He's the one who brought the nothing box to my attention. All this time, I thought that Josh was ignoring me on purpose, but really he was lost inside his nothing box. Hmmm....interesting. It doesn't make it any less irritating when I have to tell him things 4 times before he hears me, but it is nice to know that most men have this irritating habit. Now, before I tell him something important, I make it a point to ask him to kindly exit his nothing box before I start talking. It has helped our communication immensely.
On a couple of occasions, I've tried to pretend that I have a nothing box. The problem is that my box doesn't work right. It doesn't block out sounds, sights, or guilt. My box has transparent sides, no sound barrier, and the guilt comes in with me. Maybe one day, when the kids are in school and I have enough money for a maid and a cook, THEN I will have a working nothing box. Until then I guess I'll concentrate on inventing a lock to keep Josh out of his!
We went to a marriage conference in January called "Laugh your way to a better marriage". The presenter was a man named Mark Gungor, and he is hilarious. He's the one who brought the nothing box to my attention. All this time, I thought that Josh was ignoring me on purpose, but really he was lost inside his nothing box. Hmmm....interesting. It doesn't make it any less irritating when I have to tell him things 4 times before he hears me, but it is nice to know that most men have this irritating habit. Now, before I tell him something important, I make it a point to ask him to kindly exit his nothing box before I start talking. It has helped our communication immensely.
On a couple of occasions, I've tried to pretend that I have a nothing box. The problem is that my box doesn't work right. It doesn't block out sounds, sights, or guilt. My box has transparent sides, no sound barrier, and the guilt comes in with me. Maybe one day, when the kids are in school and I have enough money for a maid and a cook, THEN I will have a working nothing box. Until then I guess I'll concentrate on inventing a lock to keep Josh out of his!
Monday, March 30, 2009
Everyone has one: that one friend that seems to have it all pulled together. Their kids' clothes never have stains, the girls always have perfectly brushed hair WITH a bow that matches the outfit, the mom has no leftover baby fat, etc. You know what I mean. I know a girl like that, and I can't help but wonder how she manages to be so perfect.
If you walk into my house unannounced, you will find the floor littered with toys (and crumbs, and who knows what else...), dirty dishes in the sink, and a pile of laundry in the laundry room. You will see a baby who is probably still in her pajamas, and a toddler with a dirty face and bed-head. If you're lucky, I will have morphed into "daytime mommy", but that's not always a guarantee.
Even if you do announce your coming, you won't walk into a spotless house with perfectly coiffed children. The toys will probably be picked up, but they will still be visible. The dishes will be done, but there will still be that ever-present pile of mail on the counter. The children will be dressed, but toddler will probably have messed her hair up 5 minutes after it was brushed. I'm okay with all of this. It's just how life is when you live in a small house with 2 small kids and one large dog. I'm okay with it, that is, until I see that someone else manages to do it better.
Seriously though, how do you keep a house spotless when you have kids? At first I thought that she must just spend all her time cleaning, but now that I know her better, I know that's not true. She's a great mom. Very involved with her kids and interacts with them all the time. I don't know, I guess she's just got a clean/organization gene that I missed out on. When I look at her perfectly-groomed life, I get irritated with myself that I can't be that way. Then I get irritated with myself for being irritated.
After writing all of this, I feel like I need to get off the computer and go vacuum those crumbs up off the floor and maybe put a dent in the laundry that is overflowing into the kitchen.....it still won't be a perfect house, but it'll be a start!
If anyone has any great organization tips they'd like to share with this under-organized mom, please feel free!!
If you walk into my house unannounced, you will find the floor littered with toys (and crumbs, and who knows what else...), dirty dishes in the sink, and a pile of laundry in the laundry room. You will see a baby who is probably still in her pajamas, and a toddler with a dirty face and bed-head. If you're lucky, I will have morphed into "daytime mommy", but that's not always a guarantee.
Even if you do announce your coming, you won't walk into a spotless house with perfectly coiffed children. The toys will probably be picked up, but they will still be visible. The dishes will be done, but there will still be that ever-present pile of mail on the counter. The children will be dressed, but toddler will probably have messed her hair up 5 minutes after it was brushed. I'm okay with all of this. It's just how life is when you live in a small house with 2 small kids and one large dog. I'm okay with it, that is, until I see that someone else manages to do it better.
Seriously though, how do you keep a house spotless when you have kids? At first I thought that she must just spend all her time cleaning, but now that I know her better, I know that's not true. She's a great mom. Very involved with her kids and interacts with them all the time. I don't know, I guess she's just got a clean/organization gene that I missed out on. When I look at her perfectly-groomed life, I get irritated with myself that I can't be that way. Then I get irritated with myself for being irritated.
After writing all of this, I feel like I need to get off the computer and go vacuum those crumbs up off the floor and maybe put a dent in the laundry that is overflowing into the kitchen.....it still won't be a perfect house, but it'll be a start!
If anyone has any great organization tips they'd like to share with this under-organized mom, please feel free!!
Monday, March 23, 2009
Sick, sick, sick
Sick kids are no fun. It started on Thursday with just a runny nose. Then a cough. Then came the fevers and the whining. Ugh. Of course, along with congestion comes sleepless nights. Poor babies. I feel like they've been sick SO much this winter.
Since Avery was pulling at her ear yesterday, I thought I should take her to the dr. to rule out an ear infection. I decided to get Kate checked out too since she was still miserable. Bad idea. The whole way to the office, K was whining, "mommy, I don't want the dr. to check me out." I drove on, just praying that she would behave when we got there. No such luck. They call us back to the room, and K has a complete meltdown. Picture me: I'm carrying the giant diaper bag (note to self--get a smaller one!), my purse, and my wiggly 18-lb baby in one arm, and literally DRAGGING Kate with the other. Once we made it into the room, the nurse asked K to step on the scale. More screaming ensued. I handed Avery over to the nurse (Avery immediately started screaming), and tried to convince K to step on the scale. I even tried bribing her with McDonald's for lunch. No dice. Then we did temperature, and blood ox levels with both kids screaming the entire time. I seriously didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
So, for $50 and much frustration, we were told that they just had terrible colds and there was nothing they could do for us. Ugh. I just get so frustrated with Kate. She's usually such a good girl, but she is SO stubborn. If she doesn't want to do something, she's just not going to do it. It's all good now though, they're both sleeping, and I'm not feeling like running away from home anymore. Let's just pray that they get better soon because I can't handle being trapped in the house with these little bitty whiners for much longer!!
Since Avery was pulling at her ear yesterday, I thought I should take her to the dr. to rule out an ear infection. I decided to get Kate checked out too since she was still miserable. Bad idea. The whole way to the office, K was whining, "mommy, I don't want the dr. to check me out." I drove on, just praying that she would behave when we got there. No such luck. They call us back to the room, and K has a complete meltdown. Picture me: I'm carrying the giant diaper bag (note to self--get a smaller one!), my purse, and my wiggly 18-lb baby in one arm, and literally DRAGGING Kate with the other. Once we made it into the room, the nurse asked K to step on the scale. More screaming ensued. I handed Avery over to the nurse (Avery immediately started screaming), and tried to convince K to step on the scale. I even tried bribing her with McDonald's for lunch. No dice. Then we did temperature, and blood ox levels with both kids screaming the entire time. I seriously didn't know whether to laugh or cry.
So, for $50 and much frustration, we were told that they just had terrible colds and there was nothing they could do for us. Ugh. I just get so frustrated with Kate. She's usually such a good girl, but she is SO stubborn. If she doesn't want to do something, she's just not going to do it. It's all good now though, they're both sleeping, and I'm not feeling like running away from home anymore. Let's just pray that they get better soon because I can't handle being trapped in the house with these little bitty whiners for much longer!!
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